Rob & Chyna & Consent

By: G. Marie

If you haven’t been living under a rock, you are probably aware of the latest Rob Kardashian and Blac Chyna drama. If you have been, well, here’s the rundown: Rob finally realizes Blac Chyna finessed him and aired all of her dirty laundry on social media INCLUDING nude photos, and she accused him of physically abusing her via Snapchat. This all led to a restraining order against Rob and a whole lot of opinions from people all over social media.

Some people called Rob stupid for falling for Blac Chyna’s schemes. Others claimed that Blac Chyna is a bad person who is known to take advantage of men. Loads of people empathized for Rob and Dream (rightfully so). But, the comments that stood out the most were those that said Blac Chyna deserved to have her photos leaked.

Just going to let that sink in for a second.

A lot of commenters said that Blac Chyna was a stripper and a “hoe” which is why it didn’t matter if her photos leaked. What people failed to realize is that it DOES matter. Let me tell you why.

Consent.

According to Merriam-Webster dictionary consent means: to give assent or approval. Within that definition, there are two keywords: give and approval (or assent, if you want to be technical which would make it three). Therefore, in order for anyone to consent to anything, they must give their approval.

If you follow Blac Chyna, you know that she is a very sensual woman that posts a lot of what others may call “revealing” photos. She chooses to upload those photos of herself. She consents to having those photos on her social media for the world to see. When she sent those photos and videos to Rob, she consented to giving him access to them. She never ever consented to having them on public platforms.

She always shows off her body! She was a stripper!

It doesn’t matter. See, just because a person chooses to work in the sex industry or posts sensual photos, it doesn’t mean that the right to consent disappears. This person is still human, and their body belongs to them and them only. Posting or sharing photos of them without permission is wrong, and in some states, unlawful.

But, this issue goes beyond Rob and Chyna. Revenge porn and victim blaming are a huge part of rape culture, and they are kept alive by antiquated ideas of women and their rights to their own bodies.

When a woman reports that she has been harassed or raped, she is questioned about her behavior, physical appearance, or choice of clothing. We know that those things have nothing to do with what someone else chose to do to her. Rape and revenge porn, for that matter, are not acts of passion and sexual desire but of power. People who sexually assault others, whether it be by rape, harassment, or revenge porn, do it to hold power over the other person. Rob felt hurt, embarrassed, and abused by Chyna therefore, he thought the best way to gain control was to share those photos.

Whether or not Chyna is a bad person for what she has done throughout the course of her relationship with Rob is not the question at hand. For all I know, she could be the worst person in the world. But, that’s the thing. She is a person. She, like everyone else, is entitled to consent.

What are your thoughts? Do you think Rob was wrong or right in sharing her photos?

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