Law of Humanity and How to Advance our World
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We must understand who we are to understand and achieve our purposes on Earth.
Everything can be discussed, debated, and evolved. I am one Mind and when many Minds come together, Humanity advances faster.
Our world is chaotic. People are abused and die every day. People are in unnecessary pain, emotionally, physically and mentally. Beautiful Minds and Hearts are wasted.
Look around. We are better than this.
To advance our world, we must design society based on Human nature. A society based on Human nature will prosper.
Ultimate happiness is the goal for all.
- Humanity Beginning
- Understanding Humans
- Four Basic Emotions
- Why Do Babies Cry?
- Crying Power and the Terrible Two’s
- Humans are Emotional and Reactionary (and Selfish)
- Current Emotions and Immediate Reactions
- Dealing with Fear, Sadness, and Anger
- Summarizing Emotions
- Understanding Relationships
- Push and Pull (Attraction)
- Respect and Empathy
- Mind and Body
- Sex and Love
- Understanding Love (UniLove)
- Protect your Heart
- Move your Mind
- Achieving Ultimate Happiness (UniLove)
- UniLove Summary
- How to Advance our World
- Education and Society
- Law and Logic
- Theory on Death
- Humanity Concluded
Love vs. love – love is the deep affection you feel for another, within your Heart. Love is the powerful love between two people. You can say you love someone, or that someone is your Love.
Baby – a Human aged birth – four years
Child – a Human aged four years – nine years
Big people – an older child or an adult.
Potential One Love (POL) – someone who you feel powerful attraction toward, who may feel powerful attraction toward you, who you may enter a relationship with to see if you can be happily together with forever, never wanting another.
One Love – the one person who you decide to faithfully give your Heart to, who decides to faithfully give their Heart to you, who you will share life with, who you will go on a journey toward becoming One with. This is a decision of the Mind based on the feelings of the Heart.
UniLove – when two individual people who honestly complete each other become One. UniLove is ultimate happiness.
Note: For the most part, everything is vice versa. Boy (Child, Baby) to Mom also means Girl to Dad (sometimes Girl to Mom or Boy to Dad). Mom to Dad also means Dad to Mom. For example, when I say, “Dad should tell Girl [his daughter] he loves her,” I also mean Mom should tell Boy she loves him. And in this case, I also mean Dad should tell Boy he loves him and Mom should tell Girl she loves her.
For Humans to prosper, Humans must understand their Humanity. To understand Humanity, we must understand our beginning.
You were created by Mom (XX) and Dad (XY) through sexual intercourse, when Dad’s sperm fertilized Mom’s egg. You came into existence within Mom’s body, spending approximately nine months in her womb prior to birth.
You required Mom’s body for protection; you couldn’t survive alone.
Upon creation, you spent every day, all day, with Mom, for nine months. You’re one Mind with one Heart that beats. You were always with Mom, another Mind with another Heart that beats. Your Heart became unconditionally emotionally connected to Mom’s Heart.
After birth, you remained connected to Mom. You were fed by milk her breasts produced. You were calmed by her warm body, powered by her Heart. As an infant, you couldn’t see much, but you knew Mom’s Heart. Your perfect place was in Mom’s arms, close to her Heart. You loved to be held by Mom. (You can learn other perfect places, like with Dad or Grandma.)
When you’re Heart filled with pain, you cried. When your Heart filled with pain, the most powerful force to mend your heartache was Mom’s Heart.
You felt complete with Mom. Without Mom, you may feel alone. You may feel alone because you didn’t begin as one Heart. You began as two Hearts; yours and Mom’s.
You weren’t alone at your beginning. You’re not supposed to be alone at your end.
You will never feel complete, never feel whole, if your Heart feels alone. For babies, this complete feeling is satisfied by Mom’s Heart.
Mom’s Heart taught your Heart what “complete” feels like. But Mom’s Heart can’t complete your Heart at your end because Mom’s Heart completes Dad’s Heart.
Life Purpose 1: Your Heart will learn what “complete” feels like with Mom. Then you must leave Mom’s side to search for the Heart that will complete you. You are half and must find your One Love to feel whole.
Four Basic Emotions
To understand Human emotions, carefully observe babies during their first years of life following birth.
After birth, you were all Heart; you were driven by your emotions, emotions you expressed without shame. Your Heart was fully developed while your Mind required time to develop.
Baby displays four basic emotions: happiness, fear, anger, and sadness.
Everyone is different. Everyone has a unique Nature and Nurture. Some feel more anger than others, or more fear, or more sadness, or more happiness. It’s not a 25% equal distribution of emotions. It’ll be different for all but all four emotions are present.
Baby will feel fear when falling, when around loud noises, unfamiliarity, people/things bigger than him, when aggressively yelled at, when he feels lonely, and more.
When Baby feels fear, you will see fear on his face. He’ll flee from fear (flight reaction). He’ll run away from loud noises, flail his arms when falling, cry in the arms of a stranger, and other reactions. Whether Baby can get away or not, when fear fills his Heart, he’ll cry. Why do babies cry?
Baby will feel anger when he’s uncomfortable (tired, hungry, dirty, more), when his needs or wants aren’t met, when he’s having trouble succeeding (such as failing to get his shoes on by himself), when someone keeps bothering him (such as continuously nudging him out of comfort, or mimicking him), when someone snatches something from him, when he feels jealous, and more.
When Baby feels anger, you will see anger on his face. He may pout or lash out in some way (maybe with an aggressive groan or hand gesture to show his frustration). When anger fills his Heart, he’ll cry. Why do babies cry?
Baby will feel sadness when he feels lonely, sick, when aggressively yelled at, when his needs or wants aren’t met, and more. (There’s overlap with emotions. Something that injects fear into one person may inject sadness into another person, or to the same person at a different time.)
When Baby feels sadness, you will see sadness on his face. He may pout and cry, or immediately cry out. When Baby is lonely, he may cry until he’s back in Mom’s arms, or with a Heart he feels comfortable with. Sometimes Mom isn’t around and his cries will last longer, but eventually, his cries will end, whether he’s held or not. Why do babies cry?
Why do Babies Cry?
Fear, anger, and sadness are three emotions that cause babies to cry; they’re emotionally painful. To understand why babies cry, consider physical pain.
When Baby hurts his physical body, he cries in pain. Mom can hold Baby to console him but Baby will continue to cry if physical pain is still felt. Mom’s love is powerful in helping Baby feel better, but physical pain can be more difficult to soothe than emotional pain.
When Mom is having trouble calming Baby’s cries by holding him, Baby may not be in emotional distress; he may be in physical distress. It could be the discomfort of feeling dirty, of having an itch, of an empty belly, of dehydration, of teething, of growing pains, or something else.
If Baby’s finger is broken, he’ll cry unconsolably regardless if Mom holds him because the pain of a broken finger can’t be mended by Mom’s love. If Baby fell and lightly bumped his knee, the resulting physical pain will be gone within minutes, but a broken bone requires medical expertise, expertise Mom doesn’t have, unless she’s Dr. Mom. This isn’t the case with emotional pain because emotional pain lies solely in the Heart and the Heart of Baby is easier to mend than a broken finger. (This won’t always be the case for Big people because a broken finger can be easier to mend than a “broken” Heart.)
If Baby’s finger is broken, his crying will be hysterical. Even a hard collision against his body (like falling off a chair) will display some hysterical crying at first. His cry will be louder, more powerful, than if he was in emotional pain, or for lesser physical pain. And his crying won’t stop for a broken finger because the pain will continue to be felt until a doctor properly treats his injured finger.
When physical pain is felt, the intensity of cries depends on how much pain Baby feels. Sometimes crying is soft and brief because pain isn’t powerful (like for a short fall on Baby’s knee). But with intense pain comes intense cries. If Baby has a broken finger, pain will be felt powerfully. Baby will cry hysterically, unconsolably. Even Mom’s powerful Heart can’t mend that pain.
So, Baby cries hysterically because his cries aren’t working and he still feels pain. And his crying doesn’t stop because it’s the only thing he knows to do to try to defeat his pain.
If Baby is in minor physical pain, and he’s allowed to cry on his own, without adding Mom’s Heart to help healing, you can see the purpose of Baby’s cries.
When physical pain is minor, Baby will cry with power at first, but not hysterically because the cries are doing their job, helping Baby feel good while pain takes time to calm. If more pain is suddenly felt, like if Mom angrily yells at Baby, Baby’s cry will jump in intensity for a moment to help deal with the extra emotional pain injected into him, from the yelling, yelling backed up by angry energy directed at Baby.
When Baby cries for minor physical pain, over a short time, his cries will progressively weaken. There will be pauses in Baby’s cries because he’s actively evaluating his pain; he also needs to breathe.
When you bang your elbow, it’s most painful during the first subsequent minutes, but if nothing is broken or severely damaged, the pain will be less intense after two minutes, and even less after five minutes.
Let’s say Baby’s pain is at a 5-out-of-10 (pain scale) during the first minute. Baby will cry with a 6-out-of-10 intensity so he doesn’t feel pain. If cries calm to 4-out-of-10 and pain is still at 5, then cries will rise back over 5. If during the second minute, pain calms to 3-out-of-10, Baby won’t need to cry at an intensity of 6; he can cry at 4. Baby continuously evaluates his pain while crying. Cries will progressively weaken as pain diminishes, until pain is gone and crying ceases.
Crying requires energy and Baby doesn’t expend more energy than he feels is necessary for pain. If he did, he’d cry hysterically for all pain, the same whether for a broken finger or an elbow bump. If Baby cries for a lengthy time with great intensity, he’ll expend a lot of energy and tire himself out. This is why we can cry ourselves to sleep. Baby doesn’t waste energy crying hysterically for everything because crying has a real purpose; not just to call Mom or be annoying. So, why do babies cry?
Physical pain is a negative feeling; your Mind receives communication that your body feels physical pain. Fear, anger and sadness are negative feelings; your Mind receives communication that your Heart feels emotional pain. Only one emotion, happiness, is a positive feeling.
Happiness is what Humans live for. It’s what raw emotional Baby fights for. When Baby is in physical or emotional pain, then he isn’t feeling happy. So, upon injection of negative feelings, Baby will cry because crying feels good when some other force is causing him pain. His Mind is too young to understand any other way to deal with his pain, so he cries, uninhibited because crying feels good.
Babies cry to feel happiness. Crying is Human Power.
Baby doesn’t accept pain and doesn’t want to let go of happiness. When Baby feels happy, Baby feels good.
When Mom plays with Baby, Baby’s Heart is injected with happiness. And he wants to keep playing, and keep playing. Mom can barely keep up with Baby’s energy because Baby’s happiness is uninhibited, exaggerated. Seemingly endless happy energy is created within Baby and he wants more and more happiness; he’s consumed by a natural high.
When Baby learns, it’s so fulfilling, so uplifting for small Baby who yearns to be Big. It makes Baby feel happy to achieve advancement. Achievement injects him with a natural high, and he wants to learn more, to be bigger, to continuously feel greater.
A smile can inject Baby with happiness. Emotions are contagious and a smile can transfer happy energy into Baby’s delicate, raw heart, just like an angry yell can inject Baby with pain.
Happiness is the best feeling for Baby. When he feels happy, his Mind doesn’t consider fear, anger, or sadness because he’s all Heart, and his Heart is consumed with happiness. When he feels good (happiness), he’s far away from fear, anger, and sadness, the emotions that cause him pain, the emotions that cause him to fight for happiness with his cries.
Crying Power and the Terrible Two’s
As Baby’s Mind develops, he learns his cries have another power. He learns that along with helping him feel good, his cries also call Mom who helps him feel better than good. He learns that when he cries, Mom holds him, or feeds him, or changes his diaper, or gives him what he wants, helps him feel happier.
Unfortunately for Baby, his Mind develops slowly. Between ages one and two, Baby learns to use, and abuse, his crying power. This can drive Mom crazy because Baby will cry for nonsense reasons (from adult perspective). Baby will go from crying for need, to crying for needs and wants. This explains the “Terrible Two’s,” which can begin before age two, where Baby will cry for everything he wants.
At the beginning, at infancy, when Baby is most purely Heart, he only cried when he needed to cry, to combat emotional or physical distress. At infancy, Baby’s Mind is very young and only understands cry=feel good.
Eventually, cry=cookies, toys, Mom’s hug, more attention from Mom, get what I want, more and more happiness. Baby doesn’t understand language to ask for what he wants. Everybody wants, but Baby hasn’t learned he can’t have everything. He doesn’t understand he doesn’t need everything. He has much to learn and it requires patience from adults.
It’s difficult for Baby to learn when he doesn’t understand spoken language. He doesn’t even understand, “Ow,” until he learns it. When a Big person slams his elbow, he’ll say, “Ow,” or, “Ouch,” or any verbal expression of pain because that’s what he learned. Sometimes, you may bang your elbow and say, “Ow,” but pain never comes. You say, “Ow,” because pain usually comes when you bang your elbow that hard; over time, the Mind creates expectations. “Ow” is a learned response, not a natural reaction. The natural response to pain, when Baby hits his elbow, is to cry.
Baby communicates through his cries and it can drive adults to moments of stress because too much crying everyday can become annoying.
Baby will continue crying through his Terrible Two’s because he doesn’t understand Mom’s frustration. He doesn’t understand because he’s consumed with the emotions in his Heart, the one Heart he feels every moment.
Baby doesn’t understand or feel the emotions in Mom’s Heart. His Mind must develop more to be able to comprehend Mom’s emotions. He can’t empathize with the emotions in Mom’s Heart that he doesn’t understand.
When Big people feel overwhelmed with the cries of children, they tell children to, “Stop crying.” With everyone telling children to, “Stop crying,” this becomes an automatic response to children crying, whether their cries are necessary or not. Need vs. Want isn’t considered. All crying can feel overwhelming because crying demands someone’s time and energy, and it’s tiring (and annoying). And for parents dealing with a crying baby every day, it can feel like it never ends.
It will end. Be patient and calm. Breathe.
Baby will understand sounds and tones before language. Aggressive/angry words toward Baby will teach Baby to feel angry. Anger is a negative emotion, so speaking to Baby/Child with anger will lead him to be a negative person, a person stuck in emotional pain.
As Baby becomes Child, he learns language, and understands, “Stop crying.” Child can have his feelings hurt, pain injected into his Heart, and he’ll cry to combat the pain, to feel good. When adults say, “Don’t cry,” they’re telling Child, “Don’t make yourself feel better. Feel the pain.”
“Be strong, don’t cry,” is an oxymoron because crying is the strongest thing people can do, using their power to overcome the powerful pain caused by the outside world. Small children may continue crying despite being told to stop their crying, but over time, they fight to hold in their cries because crying can bring children more pain from frustrated adults. Children fear Big people angrily yelling at them about crying. Children want to be big and strong like Big people in the world, the people in charge, the people who don’t cry.
Adults and older children lead young children to feel ashamed of their cries because, “Crying is for babies.” Children will cover their faces, or run and hide to fight their cries, to fight their power, to lose their power. No one wants to be laughed at or called a, “Crybaby,” because that’s emotionally painful and embarrassing and might cause us to cry more. And who wants to be the biggest baby? Babies don’t want to be babies. Babies want to be Big.
Adults forgot why they cried as babies. They forgot why they cried so much during their childhood. Through the actions and words of Big people, children continuously fight their cries. By the time a child is around age twelve, with about eight years of practicing to hold in cries, fighting to halt their cries, a preteen child becomes pretty good at preventing his cries from exploding out like a young child, despite what pain hits him.
Adults must understand why Humans cry and stop influencing children toward losing their crying power.
Humans are Emotional and Reactionary (and Selfish)
When Baby feels fear, sadness, or anger, he cries. When Baby feels physical pain, he cries. When Baby feels happiness, he expresses joy or satisfaction. When emotions are felt, Baby reacts (Reactionary).
Crying is a survivalist instinct Baby has by nature. Baby doesn’t accept negative emotions; he fights for his positive emotion, happiness, through cries. Baby cries because it’s what he knows. His Mind isn’t developed enough to analyze situations. He doesn’t understand how to mend himself any other way.
Baby is sensitive and feelings consume him powerfully. If Mom leaves Baby, Baby may cry loudly because he’s saddened by Mom’s departure. But if Dad grabs a toy and begins to play with Baby, Baby’s cries may stop and he’ll play happily with Dad. Baby’s emotions are so raw that he can go from consumed sadness to consumed happiness this easily.
When Baby becomes a young Child, he begins to realize the world isn’t crying over everything and crying doesn’t solve everything. As Child ages, he becomes more mental (Mind) and less emotionally (Heart) raw. He doesn’t simply cry in fear, sadness, or anger. His developing Mind tries to figure out how to deal with emotions on his own by observing Big people react to their emotions.
When Child observes Big people become verbally or physical aggressive when anger displays on their face (like if Mom angrily disciplines Child), Child learns to yell or hit when he feels anger. Children are improperly prepared to deal with anger.
Child doesn’t observe, and isn’t spoken to about, many adults in fear and sadness, so he isn’t prepared for these emotions. Adults don’t expose their fears and sadness to children because adults believe they’re showing weakness, which is false. Fear and sadness show emotional intelligence, not weakness.
If Mom saddens Dad and Dad lashes out in anger, Child learns to respond to sadness with anger.
If Mom scares Dad and Dad lashes out in anger, Child learns to respond to fear with anger.
When adults bury their fears and sadness, it will build up and become anger within their Heart.
Child will freeze at an intense feeling of fear (shock). Where Baby would cry and run away, Child will be frozen in fear trying to figure out how to react, never taught to scream out, speak up, or run away. Adults tell children to “face your fears,” but not much more. Children aren’t taught to understand their fears, and how to appropriately react. This leaves all children, especially little girls, incredibly vulnerable.
Child will dwell in his sadness. Mom will shield Child from pain by not exposing her own sadness because of the belief that it will cause Child pain, but that isn’t the entire picture. Child will feel pain when Mom exposes pain to him, but it also teaches Child it’s okay to feel sad, and it’s okay to cry. It teaches him about Mom’s Humanity, that they’re alike, more than Child previously mentally understood. Seeing Mom in pain helps Child become conscious that others feel pain too. It teaches Child empathy. Never seeing or hearing about Mom in pain will teach Child to bury his pain. Child won’t understand how to deal with his pain if he doesn’t see others deal with their pain.
It must be understood that everyone is born Selfish. We spend most of our childhood selfish. Children want and need what they want and need. Child will be angry at Mom over a cookie, not considering all the cookies Mom gave him, not considering everything Mom does for him, only consumed with his feelings of want. You were born with your Heart and only feel what your Heart feels. Unselfishness/Empathy must be learned.
Selfishness is natural. We must be selfish because our happiness is our purpose. But we must learn unselfishness because feeling happy at another’s expense is wrong.
We must help children understand fear, sadness, and anger, both within themselves and within others. Talking to children about their emotions and exposing children to negative emotions in others will inject them with Emotional Intelligence.
Current Emotions and Immediate Reactions
When we are injected with emotions, we can become immediately consumed with current emotions. If you’ve had your Heart broken, it hurts more during the following days than five years later. If you bang your elbow, it hurts more during the following minute than it does five minutes later. In time, emotions blend with others and your Mind can effectively examine a situation and you can react appropriately. For example, Baby may have a powerful fear toward strangers, which may keep him from walking toward a stranger he sees. He may also have a powerful feeling pulling him toward ice cream (sugar makes his taste buds feel good) in the stranger’s hand, and he may want to walk to the stranger for ice cream. Injected with two powerful feelings, Baby may be overcome by the pull of ice cream and walk to the stranger, or fear may be stronger and he’ll stay away. The problem in either situation is that Baby isn’t considering the possibility of being kidnapped. Baby is either feeling (not much thinking), “Ice cream feels good,” or, “Scary person feels bad.” His young Mind isn’t developed enough to consider more puzzle pieces. He’s emotional and reacts based on the most powerful emotion. And only one emotion will take over at a time.
You may feel multiple emotions in the same second, but not at the same instant. You may feel fear, but excitement (happiness) may take over, or even go back and forth between moments of fear and excitement, like on a rollercoaster ride. You may feel a moment of pleasure (happiness) with someone who makes you feel sad, like during pleasurable sex with someone who doesn’t complete you, who you feel alone with.
Consider the phrase, “Anxiously excited.” You may feel anxiously excited while waiting in line for a rollercoaster ride. This phrase may imply that you’re feeling fear (anxious) and happiness (excited) at the same time, but you aren’t. You’re feeling fear. Your Mind understands the intense rush of feelings the ride can cause; you can look up at the large rollercoaster and hear the people on the ride screaming in fear and excitement. If you’re anxiously excited, your body feels fear about the rush of emotions that await you, but your Mind understands the ride will be exciting overall. Fear is in your Heart and Mind, while excitement is in your Mind until you’re on the ride to feel it in your Heart. While in line, fear takes over.
You can also feel an emotion be taken over by a more intense version of the same emotion. For example, let’s assume you hurt someone terribly ten years ago, and you’ve never seen that person since. Suddenly, you’re physically attacked from behind. Humans have natural survival instincts and you will react to protect yourself, by defense (grabbing the person or running away) or by return-attack. During your reaction of fear, you may lay eyes on who’s attacking you, and once you realize it’s the person you hurt long ago, who you never expected to see, it may inject you with intense fear and leave you shocked. Your first reaction of defense/attack will be overcome by shock, and you won’t be defending yourself in the next instant even if you’re still being attacked, because shock stops you in your tracks. Shock petrifies the body.
Another example would be a gruesome injury. It usually takes a few moments for physical injury to communicate pain to the Mind (you don’t feel pain the instant an injury happens). You may break your arm and in moments, you will feel physical pain. But if you break your arm, feel pain, and then you see your cracked bone protruding through your skin, that picture may leave you in intense fear. You don’t expect to see your bone piercing through your skin and the surprising sight may put you in a few moments of shock. In this situation, shock will overcome the feeling of physical pain. Eventually, shock will calm and you will feel physical pain again (unless your shocked into unconsciousness).
When we become consumed with current emotions, we must be careful with our immediate reactions.
Happiness may consume you if you enter a relationship with someone you crushed on, who you consider a (Potential One Love) POL. You may be so consumed with happiness at the wonderful start to your relationship (Honeymoon Phase) that you quickly become sexual. Six months into your relationship, you may not feel as happy as you once felt. You may feel more sadness than happiness in your relationship, and you may realize you aren’t with a true POL. When sex is involved, it may be more difficult to leave a miserable relationship. You may feel bad for engaging in sex with someone who can’t capture your Heart, who can’t be your One Love. Reacting when consumed with happiness in the moment can lead to regretful actions. Allow time to pass for exaggerated happiness to calm. Breathe and move your Mind to figure out an appropriate reaction.
Sadness and anger may consume you if you continuously allow a POL to inject your Heart with pain. You can become frustrated with built-up sadness and it can become depression (intense sadness) or anger. When sadness or anger consumes you, you may react in a violent way, verbally or physically, and you may feel bad for hurting people you care about. Hurting them means to hurt yourself because emotions are contagious, especially when it’s someone you care about, who you’re emotionally connected with. You shouldn’t go back and forth causing pain, because that prevents you from happiness. Reacting when consumed with sadness and anger in the moment can lead to regretful actions. Allow time to pass for exaggerated sadness and anger to calm. Breathe and move your Mind to figure out an appropriate reaction.
Fear is different because our immediate reaction to fear can be inaction; fear can shock us. Fear may consume you if you feel nervous about talking to someone you feel powerfully attracted to, who you think could be your One Love. You may be so consumed with fear that you never say a word, losing the presented opportunity forever. With this, wondering what could’ve been may eat away at you for some time, torturing your Mind. Remaining in shock when consumed with fear in the moment can lead to regretful inaction. Don’t allow exaggerated fear to keep you in shock. Breathe and move your Mind to figure out an appropriate reaction.
We must understand that in certain situations of fear, we must process the situation as quickly as possible and react. Fear is the only feeling where reacting quickly may be necessary (like if a scary dog begins chasing you, you must immediately react and run away).
We must learn to calm the intensity of current emotions so we don’t take actions (or inactions) we regret. We must learn to appropriately deal with our emotions. When we don’t deal with our emotions appropriately, more negative energy is created, more negative emotions will be felt. When we deal with our emotions appropriately, we place ourselves on a path toward greater happiness.
Dealing with Fear, Sadness, and Anger
Fear: Children must learn to never remain silent in fear. Fear can freeze Humans but then we must react. When fear enters, we must use our Minds to slow the situation down, evaluate the situation, and react.
We can react by running away and putting ourselves in a happier place, or surrounding ourselves with people or objects that help us feel comfortable (happy).
We can react by being honest in a situation (if someone is touching you who you don’t want touching you, then you must express your feelings).
We can react by crying or screaming (if expressing your feelings won’t work). Never be afraid to scream.
We can help our fears by understanding a situation further (if you feel fear anticipating your first day of school, understand it’s everyone’s first day, and every day comes to an end and you will return to a happy feeling).
We must understand that if you’re in fear because of threat, you must search for a path away from the threat, and express what happened to someone you trust. This is critical because children are gullible; Humans are born gullible. Children can be teased for anything because they’re gullible and will believe anything, like the Tooth Fairy, or the Boogie Man. Unfortunately, certain adults will take advantage and threaten children, which is why it’s imperative for children to understand how to react in fear.
Especially as it relates to fear, we must be conscious of our natural instincts. Humans have natural feelings arise within us that alert our Minds that something feels wrong. We must always listen carefully to instincts. If something feels wrong, obey your feelings. Don’t worry about hurting another person’s feelings or what others will think of you. Don’t worry about being nice. If your instincts tell you something is wrong, you must react to fear.
A boy may put his hands on your shoulder and your instincts may tell your Mind, “Something doesn’t feel right.” Don’t worry about causing embarrassment, being nice, or anything but your instincts. If instincts say something is wrong, then something is wrong. Trust your instincts and tell the boy to keep his hands off you and communicate the issue to a trusted adult. We must always listen to our emotions and continuously be educated on how to appropriately respond.
Never remain silent and never allow your emotions to be discounted. It doesn’t matter if the boy is nice and meant no harm. Your comfort and security are what’s important.
Sadness: Children must learn to never bury sadness. Sadness can build up and lead to depression, or become anger. When sadness is felt, we must use our Minds to slow the situation down, evaluate the situation, and react.
We can react to sadness by putting ourselves in a happier place, or surrounding ourselves with people or objects that help us feel comfortable (happy).
We can react by communicating our sadness. It’s especially important to communicate sadness to the person who injected you with sadness. When you do this, the person has the chance to understand the feelings their words or actions injected, and if they’re sorry, they will feel regret and should communicate regretful feelings and apologize. If they aren’t sorry, if they don’t show remorse for injecting you with pain, then you gain understanding that the person may not care for your feelings. Whether you receive an apology or not, you must evaluate whether a person is truly sorry based on their future behavior. If someone continues to inject you with sadness despite your expression of pain, then you should distance yourself from them because they take you away from happiness.
We can react to sadness by crying. When Big people cry, there’s a natural reaction to hold cries in. Cries are always trying to fight their way out. This isn’t a natural reaction; it’s a trained reaction. That feeling inside of you that pulls your cries back in, the immediate calming of rising cries, that’s a reaction you spent years practicing. You spent years trying to control, trying to bury rising cries. As children, we learned to hold in our cries when adults didn’t cry, when everyone attributed crying to babies, to babies who want to be Big, to babies who didn’t want to be called, “Crybabies,” because that made us feel sad. “Stop crying!” “Be strong, don’t cry,” “It’s okay, don’t cry.” These words led us to feel embarrassed about our cries and we believed it all because Humans are born gullible. We kept fighting our cries as children, regardless of where the pain came from, until we gained control and forgot how to cry like the little baby who cried for no reason at times, the baby who knew how to cry for a cookie. We didn’t gain control of our cries. We lost control because we forgot how to cry.
It’s okay to tell children to stop crying over a cookie. It’s not okay to tell children to stop crying when he feels honest sadness in his Heart. If a child is crying over frequently losing at a video game, explain to them that it’s just a game, there’s no reason to cry, to keep trying and eventually they will win. If a child is crying because his team lost the championship game, explain to them that they should feel proud to have made it to the championship, that it’s okay to cry and to use the pain of defeat as extra motivation to work and fight harder to reach victory.
As children age, they will learn the situations where their cries are necessary.
Anger: Children must learn to never bury anger, and to never react when anger consumes them. When anger is felt, we must allow time to pass before words are said and actions are taken. We must breathe.
Adults must stop raising children to be angry through their aggressive verbal and physical discipline.
It’s difficult for adults to discipline children when adults don’t understand themselves or their children. Babies are born followers. They want to be Big and will mimic the behavior they see. They will even hit Mom and laugh, thinking it’s a game. Mom will tell her growing baby that hitting is wrong, but he may continue to hit, especially if he sees others hitting. You can’t simply tell a child, “what is,” and expect him to understand. Children require time to learn appropriate behavior, as well as language, and they learn more through the actions of others.
When adults become angry at children, they may angrily yell at or hit children. This teaches children that when they feel angry, an appropriate way to deal with anger is to angrily yell or hit. You can tell a child the contrary, but actions speak louder. Children will follow actions over words.
Adults mustn’t yell at children for doing things they learned. For example, snatching is a learned behavior Big people unconsciously teach. Child may touch things he shouldn’t be touching, and when he’s playing with cleaning spray, Mom will immediately grab the spray, snatching what he shouldn’t be touching, unconsciously teaching snatching. And if Child is angrily yelled at, “Don’t touch!” he also learns to yell when he feels anger. Adults must patiently and continuously teach children appropriate behavior, with a low, calm, serious (not angry, aggressive, or loud) tone.
Adults must never hit children. Child may hit another if he sees another acting mean, because Mom hits Child when he’s mean. Child may hit another who’s misbehaving, because Mom hits Child when he misbehaves. If Dad hits Boy, Boy may be prone to fighting because he may believe it’s okay to fight. He may have built up anger that he releases on those who are smaller than him, like Dad does. If Dad hits Girl, Girl may be prone to accepting a man’s violent hands on her because Dad showed her that sometimes it’s necessary for men to put violent hands on women. Parents should never hit children because it teaches children to accept violence.
No one should be hitting anyone, period. As adults, it’s not acceptable for anyone to hit anyone (except in self-defense, which isn’t necessary if Humans understand respect). We don’t even allow animals to be hit, but for some reason, it’s acceptable for children to be hit, and only children. Hitting children must stop!
When learning a new language, someone may say an entire sentence and an adult may recognize three words, and with that, an adult may be able to interpret the entire sentence. A child may understand three words of a sentence but won’t be able to interpret the entire sentence because their Minds are young in development. An adult’s Mind can put more puzzle pieces together; a child’s Mind combines limited pieces.
Children always live in the moment, rarely considering the past. Their understanding of time is almost nonexistent. A ten-year-old happy child dislikes going to bed every night because he doesn’t comprehend time (he may not understand taking fifteen minutes to clean his bedroom so he won’t lose hours of playtime through punishment). Adults must continuously repeat themselves to children because children aren’t actively considering everything they’ve been told.
Adults feel anger (frustration) when children don’t listen (don’t understand), or don’t behave (don’t remember how to behave). But adults must be patient and calm.
Adults must allow their anger to calm. To react in anger is to retaliate, to inject a child with negative emotions because they injected you with negative emotions. Adults should be careful with the angry energy they direct toward all people, especially children (sensitive Hearts). Energy is contagious and negative emotions will continue transferring back and forth, unless someone is conscious enough to stop it, which is what adults must repeatedly show children to appropriately teach them. When adults yell at and hit children in anger, children will learn it’s okay to react with anger, and it’s not.
Parents mustn’t have to deal with their children being hit and yelled at by other children because other parents inappropriately hit and yell at their children.
When children are continuously yelled at or hit for doing wrong, they learn to lie. If Child accidently drops his food, he shouldn’t receive any negative energy for his mistake (he shouldn’t be punished). Accidents happen to all and he should be shown that when an accident happens, we must clean our mess, and we must apologize when necessary. If a child is yelled at (injected with negative energy) for an accident, he’ll feel wronged. He’ll feel he didn’t deserve emotional pain, which he’s correct in feeling. When children continuously receive negative energy for their mistakes, they will learn to lie. They will lie because it makes no difference whether they tell the truth about their mistake or get caught in a lie, negative energy is coming to them regardless. They learn that lying becomes their best chance at not feeling bad. If a child lies, it’s because he learned not to trust adults with his Heart, because they cause him pain when he doesn’t deserve it. Angry adults create liars.
Discipline should be a calm conversation. Children learn tones (sounds) before words, and adults don’t have to yell. Adults can use a low, serious-sounding tone when a child is misbehaving. Adults can even add some controlled aggression, or more effectively, controlled sadness. You can inject sadness into a child if they see that their actions injected you with sadness, and because emotions are contagious, just seeing you sad can lead them to feel sad. For example, if Child purposely makes a mess, Dad should talk to Child calmly with sadness, letting him know what he did was wrong, made him sad, and caused work (cleanup) for Dad. Dad should then clean the mess with Child watching, or have Child clean his mess with Dad (an older Child may be able to clean his own mess), while consumed with controlled sad energy. Child wants to have fun (feel happy) with Dad; he doesn’t want to feel sad with Dad.
When conversation isn’t enough, the best way to deal with a misbehaving child is to take away what’s most precious to a child: time for fun.
Child wants to spend every second of life feeling excitement (having fun). He wants to be kept busy, continuously entertained. He unconsciously understands the feelings in his Heart and wants to keep feeling happiness. He doesn’t want to stop and think because that’s not fun; his Mind is still developing. He doesn’t understand his Mind so he doesn’t understand the learning, the advancements that can occur within his Mind by thinking in silence (meditation). He doesn’t have patience for silent thought.
“Timeout” is the best punishment for children because it takes their time for fun away. They’re punished in the worst way because children don’t want to sit (or stand) still silently without entertainment. Timeout allows children to think about their behavior.
When Humans allow their Minds to wander without interference, their Minds come to realizations.
All children misbehave because they’re continuously learning what’s right and wrong. Timeout allows for a child to be punished and mentally grow. And adults must be aware that time for a child is felt differently compared to an adult. Fifteen minutes for a young child may feel like an hour for an adult, so don’t keep a young child in Timeout for an hour; it’s unnecessary and torturous.
Timeout won’t work for older children (after about age nine). For older children, the best punishment is to take away things they enjoy. If they receive a treat every day, take it away for a week. If they have a game system they love, take the controllers away for a day. If they love their television, take the plug away. If they love their cell phone, take it away while they’re home.
In all punishing situations, adults should explain to children that they don’t want to punish, that they’re saddened when they must punish, but there are consequences for all actions. Positive actions yield positive consequences (you get your television privileges) and negative actions yield negative consequences (you lose your television privileges).
The purpose of discipline is to punish and teach. “Teach” should be the focal point because we want children to learn to behave appropriately. Children learn more through teaching than punishment.
If Child hit another, or called another a hurtful name, Child must be helped to understand the feelings his actions injected into another child. If Dad helps Child understand his wrongful actions, and that it made another feel sad, and it made Dad feel sad, then Child can feel sad for his hurtful actions. Child will learn to empathize with the emotions of other Hearts. If Dad is punishing Child, through angry yells or hits, then Child is in fear. Child can’t feel sad for his actions if he’s in fear.
If Child feels too much fear, then Child will have trouble learning because he’s consumed with fear. Child should fear negative consequence for negative actions, instead of fearing Dad; he has natural fear towards Dad because Dad is Big and has the power to inject Child with negative emotions, with his powerful voice and Heart (contagious emotions). Parental fear must be balanced with trust. Child can fear Dad’s punishments, but must trust that Dad’s punishments are fair and understand Dad doesn’t enjoy punishing Child.
Like sadness and fear, we can react to anger by putting ourselves in a happier place, or surrounding ourselves with people or objects that help us feel happy.
Like sadness, we can react to anger by communicating our anger to the person who injected anger. If they aren’t sorry, if they continue to anger you, then you should distance yourself from them because they take you away from happiness.
It’s so important to communicate negative emotions. You should make others aware of the emotional pain they inject into you. This allows others to express their feelings and you may learn that they had no true intention to cause you pain. Babies have no true intention to cause Mom stress with their cries, but they require time to understand Mom’s stress. Children have no true intention to anger Dad when they don’t listen (a child may forget because his Mind isn’t developed enough to consider all puzzle pieces, or he may be shocked in fear which prevents him from listening in a moment, or he may be consumed by happiness from wearing Dad’s favorite shoes, trying to be like Dad, or numerous other situations where a child’s intention isn’t to anger). Big people can understand intentions and we must understand a person’s true intentions to properly evaluate whether we want those people to remain in our lives (or appropriate punishment when dealing with children). We must understand intentions.
We must take control of our emotions by pushing ourselves away from people (and places and things) who inject us with negative emotions and pulling ourselves toward people (and places and things) who inject us with happiness.
If we don’t understand sadness, then we aren’t prepared when sadness enters our Heart. We don’t react the way we should react. We may feel regret, feeling angry at ourselves for not reacting appropriately. We don’t accept sadness because we were taught, “Crying is weakness.” We bury sadness. Sadness builds and we end up expressing frustration/anger. Sadness becomes anger.
If we don’t understand fear, then we aren’t prepared when fear enters our Heart. We don’t react the way we wished we reacted. We may feel regret, feeling angry at ourselves for not reacting appropriately. We feel anger toward the world for not preparing us, not protecting us. Fear becomes anger.
If we don’t understand anger, then we aren’t prepared when anger enters our Heart. We don’t calm ourselves and think about our anger before reacting. We react, filled with anger, and we throw negative energy out into the world. We inject others with pain, even though the pain we received may not be intentional (always understand intentions). When we react while feeling exaggerated anger, then our actions become overly aggressive, causing plenty harm to others. We may be left feeling regret, angry with our actions that don’t reflect who we truly are. We expose ourselves to more pain as retribution. We expose ourselves to more pain when we feel bad for causing our Loves pain. Anger becomes more anger.
If we don’t understand our emotions, we become angrier, which is why we live in an angry world of buried pain.
We must understand our emotions so we can properly express ourselves and react appropriately. We must feel comfortable talking about our emotions because at times, we need help dealing with them.
We must understand we all make mistakes. All Humans unintentionally inject pain into others and we must understand the appropriate reaction is to accept our mistakes, feel sad for our actions, and apologize; it’s imperative for children to observe adults apologize, and for adults to apologize to children when necessary.
Adults must be conscious of their behavior because children learn how to behave by observing adults. Adults must calmly and patiently educate children, with calm words and appropriate behavior.
As children age, if properly educated, they will learn how to deal with their negative emotions in a beneficial way. And they won’t lose and forget their crying power.
When we understand our emotions, we will understand how to fight for our happiness, our one positive emotion, the emotion we live for.
“Push and Pull” (Attraction)
Your first Love is Mom. You felt Mom’s Heart every day upon your creation.
Mom’s Heart powerfully pulls your Heart toward her, uninhibited when you’re a baby. Mom can make Baby sad, Baby will cry and be back in her arms, against her Heart, without any grudges, feeling complete with the Love of his life.
As Baby ages, he encounters other Humans. He meets siblings, cousins, friends, grandparents, and more. When he encounters others, he decides who he wants to be closer to. For example, Baby may love spending time with Mom and Dad. Despite enjoying his time with both, he may decide he wants to spend more time with Mom because Mom injects his Heart with more happiness.
Humans will also decide who they don’t want to be close to. For example, Child may decide to remain at a distance from another child in his classroom if the child is mean. When another child is behaving in a mean way, he’s injecting those around him with negative emotions. As a result, Child may decide to remain at a distance so he doesn’t feel negative emotions.
Humans live for happiness. Child will pull himself towards those who inject him (or he believes will inject him) with happiness and push himself away from those who inject him (or he believes will inject him) with fear, sadness, and anger. This Push and Pull is determined by the feelings in his Heart.
If Child feels fear toward unfamiliar Grandma, then Child will cry when in her arms, will run away if he can. Time must be spent together in the same space for Child to get to know anyone. When more time is spent with Grandma, Child will learn her Heart.
If Child feels emotionally pulled toward Grandma, it’s because Child feels happy with her. He feels happy with her if she does things that attract him, such as holding him lovingly, caring for him (like feeding him, or cleaning him), giving him things he enjoys (like toys, or ice cream), doing things he enjoys (like playing with him, or taking him to the park), spending time with him, time he considers valuable.
If Child feels emotionally pushed away from Grandma, it’s because he feels negative feelings around her, or he isn’t happy enough with her. Grandma could be mean, not willing to play or give Child attention, or simply not be fun enough (boring). Grandma could be a miserable woman giving off miserable energy and Child doesn’t want to feel contagious miserable negative energy. Or he may prefer to be elsewhere (with others or alone), where he feels happier. He doesn’t want to waste his time not feeling the happiest he can feel.
Over time, Humans will encounter many people (from family to friends to strangers), and they will feel Push and Pull from all, regardless of sexual orientation.
The strength of attraction can be powerfully felt or weakly felt, but it’s always there. Child may feel more pull toward one sibling versus another because he has more fun with one, or more admiration for one. Child may feel more pull toward one stranger versus another if he observes one do something nice, like playing with a child who’s feeling happy.
Everyone’s first most powerful pull is Mom; Baby feels emotionally completed by Mom. Mom can be mean, Baby will cry his pain away, and he’ll be back in Mom’s arms, consumed with happiness, without consciousness of what Mom did to cause him pain.
As Child grows and his Mind develops, Child will be able to consider past events. If Mom is frequently mean, frequently injecting Child with negative emotions, then Child will feel progressively pushed away from Mom. Positive emotions between Mom and Child will pull Child closer; negative emotions will push Child away. No matter how much Mom pushes Child, Child will always feel pulled by Mom because she’s his first Love, the Love of his life when he’s young. The happiness Baby feels when he’s in Mom’s arms is invigorating.
The most beautiful woman in Baby’s eyes is Mom. He’s emotionally and physically pulled toward her; he’s emotionally and physically attracted to Mom first. He’s physically attracted to her because physical attraction is determined by emotional attraction. When you’re complete in love with another, then you love everything about them; they’re the most beautiful person in your world, within and without.
As Baby grows toward Child, he feels emotional and physical attractions to those who are around him. Child’s first attractions are toward his family; parents first, then siblings, then cousins and others who he’s around. There may be many similarities between girls (or boys) Child feels strong pull toward and Child’s Mom (or Dad, or siblings, or any of his first attractions), within and without. (The exception is when Child feels pushed far away from Mom, if Child feels too much sadness, anger and fear with Mom, though physical similarities may still exist.)
Friendships are developed because of attraction. When you don’t like someone, they emotionally push you and you shouldn’t be their friend; you shouldn’t spend too much time in the same space if you can help it. You may not like a person who gives off negative energy, who injects you with negative emotions. If you don’t give in to your push, and you share the same space with someone who emotionally pushes you, you put yourself in a vulnerable position. You expose yourself to negative emotions, emotions that prevent you from positive emotions, from happiness.
There’s continuous Push and Pull between all Humans, and if we understand it, we will understand how to be happy.
Respect and Empathy
You like someone because they inject you with positive emotions. The more positive energy you feel around them, the closer you want to be to them. But you can’t force yourself close to someone because of your feelings. Just because you want to pull someone close, doesn’t mean they want to be pulled close. You must be empathetic and always keep a respectable distance.
Humans must be aware that we are born selfish. You were born with one Heart and only feel all the feelings that hit your one Heart.
Consider this as it relates to our selfishness: The more we are pulled toward one person, the more we are pushed away from all others. The strongest pull we feel is toward Mom upon birth. When Child is aged five, and feels attracted toward a little girl he sees in school (the girl could also be a caregiver because attraction has no age limits), if Child spends time close to the little girl, then he’s allowing himself to be pulled in her direction, which pushes him away from Mom at the same time. The push from Mom isn’t clearly felt because Mom’s powerful pull remains, but the push is present. Child may spend most of his time with Mom at home if she’s his strongest pull at home, but if Child is with Mom at school, then Child may leave Mom’s side to play with the little girl he feels pull toward. If Child goes to play with the little girl, he gives into his pull, whether Mom is there or not. Over time, as Child ages, he’ll spend less and less time with Mom. And with this, Child has no idea how Mom feels, nor does he consider it, because he’s selfish. Mom may feel sad because her baby is happy with another, because her baby is growing up and meeting girls, but Child has no consciousness of Mom’s feelings because he’s consumed with the feelings in his Heart, not yet able to empathize.
Selfishness is natural. Empathy (unselfishness) must be learned. Children require continuous education on Human emotions to mentally understand empathy.
Children must be taught to keep their hands to themselves. Just because you want to put hands on another, doesn’t mean another wants your hands on them.
People can be selfishly consumed with their emotions, consumed with their pull toward another, and want to be near them, want to touch them, but you must keep your hands to yourself unless it’s clear that your physical contact is welcomed.
Children will learn how to respect others through the actions and words of adults.
Parents must protect Child from being touched by people Child doesn’t know, regardless if it’s family or not. An infant being held by Grandma is okay, but if Child is meeting Grandma for the first time, Grandma shouldn’t touch Child, not until Child is comfortable enough to touch Grandma (unless Grandma doesn’t want to be touched). Allow Child time to observe Grandma, to get to know Grandma. There’s no need for immediate physical contact that may be uncomfortable for Child.
Child should never be touched by an adult before Child is comfortable enough to go near the adult on his own (forcefully telling a child or threatening punishment doesn’t count). There are some exceptions to this, such as when Child needs to be saved by a stranger, or if someone else needs to be saved from Child. If Child is drowning, it’s okay for a stranger to save Child’s life. If Child is attacking someone, it’s okay for a stranger to restrain Child to keep him from hurting another. Another exception would be when Child is being evaluated by a doctor, with parental consent.
When Child is touched by a stranger, Child will feel uncomfortable but can’t mentalize or verbalize his discomfort (Child is mostly Heart, not much Mind). When Child isn’t protected from unwanted physical contact, Child learns that it’s okay for a stranger to touch him, that his feelings of fear are wrong, and he unconsciously fights his natural emotion (instincts), like what he does with his cries.
When Mom forces Child to be friendly with people not known to Child, she unconsciously tells Child that his feelings of fear are wrong. If continuously forced into discomfort with strangers, Child will fight to numb negative emotions of discomfort, so he doesn’t go crazy with all the bad feelings that he has no power to get away from, because Mom won’t protect him. This is a survivalist reaction. Humans are survivors by nature. We adapt to our circumstances, and sometimes that means numbing ourselves to pain, which is how we lose our crying power.
Child shouldn’t be forced to greet people. He’ll see Mom greet people and Mom can tell Child, “Say, ‘Hi’,” but if Child doesn’t want to say, “Hi,” don’t force him. When Child doesn’t want to say, “Hi,” he shouldn’t be punished or scolded for remaining silent. His intention was to protect his feelings of fear, not to be disrespectful.
Don’t force Child into discomfort. Allow Child time to become comfortable.
Don’t allow Child to be touched anywhere by a stranger. If Child appears uncomfortable (if Baby is crying) when with another, even if family, Mom must take her baby, protect her baby.
In time, Child will gravitate toward those he feels attraction toward and comfortable with.
As Child ages, he must learn to listen to his emotions to protect himself. If you don’t feel comfortable near someone, get away from them. If someone injects you with negative emotions, you should talk to Mom (or Dad, or a trusted adult) about it.
Protecting Child teaches him respect. It shows Child to be true to his emotions, to never bury negative emotions, to listen to his instincts. It shows Child he shouldn’t allow others to touch him if he doesn’t want to be touched, and he shouldn’t touch others unless his touching is welcomed.
Respect isn’t saying, “Hi,” or being polite to people who mean well, yet inject negative emotions. Respect is listening to your emotions, ensuring others don’t inject you with negative emotions. Respect is empathizing with other people’s emotions, ensuring you don’t inject others with negative emotions. If people haven’t learned respect, you shouldn’t have to suffer the consequences. Respect yourself and demand respect.
Respect all and keep your hands to yourself.
Mind and Body
We are our Minds. When you were born, you were in your head, feeling no shame about your body. You ran around naked without care because your body isn’t who you are. Your body is a tool to get around, powered by your Heart, operated by your Mind.
As a baby, you had a powerful connection to Mom that you weren’t conscious of, but Mom’s Mind was conscious and remembers the connection. You may have forgotten all your crying, but Mom remembers. You may have forgotten how much you loved being held, but Mom remembers. And you loved being held. When Mom held your little body against her Heart, it was the best feeling in the world for you. It was your favorite place, the place your Heart was injected with the greatest happiness.
Emotions hit your Heart. Your Mind interprets the emotions that hit your Heart. Any hug can feel good but Mom’s felt perfect because of the loving energy she held you with, energy felt throughout your body.
Humans continuously create and release energy that flows through the air. You can say, “I love you,” without any meaning behind it and there may not be much energy behind the words. But when you tell someone you love them while feeling the love powerfully in your heart, you transfer your loving energy into them and Love can be clearly felt.
Words are powerful and we must understand they are more than words. Your words can have a powerful impact on another’s emotions because of the words, but even more because of the energy you attach to your words. And you don’t even need to say any words to transfer your energy into others.
You can angrily yell at someone and transfer angry energy into them. You can feel miserable and inject the feeling of misery into those around you. You can feel happy and inject happiness into those around you.
You can transfer your energy with your facial expressions. A child’s face can express sadness and others may feel sadness in their Heart. Mom would feel the most sadness because Mom’s Heart is powerfully connected to Child.
A simple smile can inject another with happiness, because it’s not a simple smile. A smile has your happy energy behind it. An angry stare has angry energy behind it.
The energy you release is determined by the state of your Mind. The state of your Mind is influenced by the feelings in your Heart and the thoughts of your Mind.
You can see a person’s energy in their body language and in their face; mostly in their eyes.
The energy you release is transparent. If energy was colorful, you might see red smoke coming off your skin when you feel filled with love. You might see dark gray smoke come off your skin when you’re being mean, darker toward black the meaner you are. Maybe bluish smoke when sad or depressed. Maybe yellowish toward white when happy, when feeling at peace.
We don’t see energy in colors so it’s not always easy to see, but if you pay attention to a person’s body movements, their facial expressions, their eyes, you can see the energy they’re giving off. And if you’re in tune with the feelings of your body (sensitive), and if you pay attention to others, you may be able to feel the energy of others with clarity.
It’s important to be aware and respectful of the energy you transfer. People don’t want to be stared down in an intimidating way, as many men do to women and children, making them feel uncomfortable, causing them unnecessary fear.
When you stare at someone, your energy is directed at them. The more someone is stared at, the more energy is transferred into them and all that energy can feel uncomfortably overwhelming when it’s coming from unwanted eyes.
Humans must be respectful with their eyes.
People will stare uncomfortably because they want to be stared at; people want to be seen. It feels so wonderful to be stared at with loving happiness (admiration) and people want that feeling to hit their Heart. That feeling will only hit your Heart satisfyingly if that stare comes from someone who loves (or likes) you, who you also love (or like), which is why children love to be stare at by Mom.
Children love to feel loving energy. Children love to be seen by Mom and Dad. Mom feels lovingly happy when she’s watching her babies and her babies feel her love. Parents must be conscious of the feelings they inject into their children because if you stare too much at one child over another, another child may feel sad. If another child looks at Mom and Mom is always looking at one child, injecting one child with her love, then another child may feel sad because he isn’t receiving the love his Heart craves.
It’s important for Mom and Dad to stare at each other. The eyes are the gateway to what the Heart feels, what the Mind thinks. When Mom and Dad stare into each other’s eyes, they can silently communicate their love for each other. The more time they spend staring into each other’s eyes with love, the closer they become. The closer they become, the more children learn about Love.
You can love anyone in life but you can’t force others to love you, and you must respect the feelings of others. You must empathize. You must understand you couldn’t feel the feelings you truly crave from someone who doesn’t reciprocate your feelings, so don’t stare people down hoping to be seen the way your Heart craves.
It’s only okay for children to stare people down. Children are learning and don’t understand empathy; they don’t understand the energy they release. They require time to understand staring isn’t polite. And sometimes, children need to stare. They may be staring because it takes their young Minds more time to figure people out, or because they feel fear toward someone and they’re making sure someone doesn’t come too close, or other possible reasons. It can be a mystery what’s in a child’s Mind. We must be patient as children learn the powerful energy their Mind and body release, as they learn respect.
Sex and Love
Around ages nine to sixteen, children experience puberty (girls usually begin earlier, around age ten, while boys begin around age twelve). This is the age range when sexual emotions become powerful within us.
It’s important for children to have some understanding of our four basic emotions because more powerful emotions enter during puberty, which take greater knowledge and emotional strength to understand and control.
Nature protects children from powerful sexual emotions by allowing time to feel their four basic emotions first. If sexual emotions hit young children powerfully, children would be walking around sexually aroused and unhinged.
Prior to having to deal with powerful sexual emotions, we are given ten years of practice to learn to understand and control our basic emotions of happiness, sadness, anger, and fear. A ten-year-old child will still be learning about his basic emotions; education on basic emotions must continue.
As puberty approaches, children must be mentally prepared for the upcoming changes in their body. We must understand puberty is the period when our bodies are sexually maturing, and we’ll experience emotional changes. Young bodies are evolving and adults must help young Minds evolve.
During puberty, sexual feelings begin hitting us powerfully and we must be encouraged to explore our own sexuality with our hands (masturbation). We must learn our bodies.
We must understand that our sexual feelings cause our attractions to feel more powerful. Love is felt more powerfully. And with more powerful Loving feelings comes hateful feelings. We must understand to always calm current exaggerated emotions and put our Minds to work. We mustn’t give in to our emotions without using our logical Minds.
We must understand the difference between sex and Love.
Children understand Love unconsciously within the Heart because of their first Love, Mom, and adults must help young Minds become conscious of Love. We must understand our connection to Mom. We must learn our main purpose in life: to find our One Love.
Children must understand that Love has no gender rules. Love isn’t about opposing sexual organs. Love is about the Heart and Mind.
Children must understand the goal is finding your One Love, not having sex. The path to finding your One Love is through the Heart and Mind, not a sexual organ. Pleasurable sex doesn’t lead to Love. Sex is a powerful tool to help you physically express your love, but you can find your One Love without sex.
Think about baseball. Everyone wants to hit a home run; everyone wants to score, to reach Home Plate. We began at Home Plate when our Hearts felt complete with Mom’s Heart. We didn’t need sex at our beginning to feel complete. Completion is felt in the Heart, satisfying the Mind.
First Base is that first spark of a potential Love brought together by a limited emotional connection-you may enter a relationship with another. Second Base is a greater emotional connection developed after more time spent together-possibly with a perfect kiss and a warm, loving feeling when you hold each other. Third Base is an advanced emotional connection with two Minds aligning in belief that they may have found their One Love-possibly with the physical expression of Love. Sex is Third Base.
Home Plate is difficult to achieve. It’s a long road of two Minds with two different lives, spending their precious time together, learning each other’s Hearts, pushing each other, and pulling each other closer and closer, until that final pull, when two Hearts pull each other together. Home Plate is when two Hearts pull to a connection, when two Hearts become One.
When two Hearts become one, two Minds have reached UniLove.
Children must understand that they must look beyond physical and sexual attraction. We must prioritize emotional attraction.
If people want to have sex for fun, instead of trying to connect, that’s fine if that’s your choice, but you won’t be on the road to complete, ultimate happiness. A sexual connection will never complete your Heart. Only an emotional connection will complete your Heart.
We are all half and must find our One Love to feel whole, to reach UniLove.
Understanding Love (UniLove)
Protect your Heart
When you want to be pulled toward someone beyond a respectable friendship, you should communicate your feelings to them (unless they’re in a relationship-respect others). If your feelings are mutual, you may enter a relationship with your chosen POL to explore if the two of you can progress toward ultimate happiness; UniLove.
It should be understood by both sides what is wanted, honestly, whether just a sexual relationship, or more, or less. And no matter the relationship, emotions will always increasingly be a factor the more time two people spend in the same space. Hearts will continuously bounce back and forth, and over time, you will either progressively be pulled closer or pushed away.
When two people begin dating, they enter a “Honeymoon Phase” where everything is going great because both are on their best behavior. The known attractions are the bulk of shared emotions and the resulting powerful pull can feel intoxicating. These are exaggerated emotions, and you shouldn’t immediately react to these powerful pulls; you shouldn’t jump into sex. A sexual relationship should be put on hold.
Engaging in sex too soon can cloud a relationship because sex can consume us as a powerful pull, rendering built-up pushes unconscious in a relationship dominated by sexual feelings. Prior to engaging in sex, you should allow powerful pushes to take place and see if you’re subsequently pulled closer or pushed further away.
Powerful pushes will always be felt and it’s a great test of communication, one of the most important skills in relationships. Everyone makes mistakes and you shouldn’t be with someone who can’t recognize their mistakes, apologize, and improve. You shouldn’t be someone who you can’t have a healthy conversation with toward a better place, a place of stronger pull.
If you begin a sexual relationship too soon, before you allow enough Push and Pull, you leave yourself in a vulnerable position. Sexual Love is more difficult to control than Emotional Love. It’s why we don’t deal with powerful sexual emotions before age ten.
After a sexual relationship is established, it can be difficult to leave a relationship no matter how much push is felt. Despite feeling pushed far away, the powerful pull of pleasurable sex can trap you and pull you back, only to be pushed away again. You keep going back for the momentary satisfaction of ice cream, but then you feel the powerful push of the stranger, once the ice cream is gone.
Every relationship experiences pushes, and pushes teach you more about each other. Through pushes, you learn how well you work together at solving problems. You learn if you can understand each other and come to agreement. You learn if your POL can empathize with you.
You must understand if your POL can empathize with you. If you open your Heart to someone who can’t learn to empathize with your wants and needs, you expose yourself to unnecessary pain. We must learn to think for “us,” instead of for “me.”
In a relationship, you will spend much time together in the same space, where your Hearts will bounce back and forth. An argument will push Hearts away. An agreement will pull Hearts close. You must be doing more pulling than pushing for a relationship to succeed in happiness.
There should be more pull following moments of push because you should learn more of how to protect you POL’s feelings. For example, the way your POL talks to you may inject you with sadness, causing you to shut down, react in anger, cry, or another defensive reaction. You must communicate your emotions to your POL. Your POL may not have had the intention of causing you pain. He may alter the way he talks to you, continuously trying to remain conscious of what you expressed to him. This honest communication, empathizing, and greater understanding put in action, will pull two Hearts closer. If he continues to inject you with sadness, then your Heart will be continuously pushed away from UniLove.
Always be true to the feelings in your Heart. If something bothers you (saddens/angers/scares you), talk about it, whatever it is. If you feel negative emotions within your relationship, then you won’t feel happy. Always try to understand what your POL is feeling; empathize. If you can’t understand, if you can’t be understood, then you will continue to feel sad, continuously pushed away, never reaching UniLove.
Move Your Mind
Two people will come together because of mutual physical and limited emotional attraction (pull). Physical attraction may immediately exist and emotional attraction will evolve through time.
Emotional pull is more important. Emotional attraction will determine physical attraction. Physical attraction won’t determine emotional attraction. Your POL will become more beautiful in your eyes if your emotional pull strengthens. Your POL will become less beautiful in your eyes if your emotional push strengthens.
When you enter a relationship, you will still feel pulls in other directions, attractions toward other people. You may feel a strong pull in another direction and if you give in to that pull, you’re allowing yourself to be pushed away from your chosen POL. If you give in, emotionally, physically or mentally, then you’re cheating, emotionally, physically, or mentally. For example, while in your relationship, you may feel an emotional pull toward another, and if you’re talking to another in a flirty, interested way, then you’re giving in to your pull toward another and you’re emotionally and mentally cheating. You’re mentally cheating because you feel a pull and mentally decided to accept the pull and flirt. You’re emotionally cheating because you’re talking to another with your interested energy, giving her your flirty eyes that implies you’re into her. You don’t have to touch another to cheat, to push yourself away from your chosen POL. When you give your interested eyes to another, or even simply your curious energy toward another, you’re pushing yourself away from your POL.
Attractions will be felt and you must put your Mind to work. If you want to respect your POL and remain on the path to UniLove, you must mentally fight your other attractions. You must reject all other powerful pulls, pushing yourself away from others, pulling yourself closer to your POL. In time, the powerful pulls toward others will weaken and the powerful pull toward your POL will strengthen. Remaining faithful becomes easier over time.
Love is a mental process that must be continuously consciously worked on to protect Love. You can’t reach UniLove if you allow yourself to be pulled in other directions. Keep other pulls at a respectable distance emotionally, physically, and mentally, actively pushing them using your Mind (mental decisions).
Love is felt in the Heart, but it’s more in the Mind. Your Heart will feel love and you must work your Mind to understand it and protect it.
UniLove is difficult to achieve because each person must do their part, which is in their own control. It’s up to you to communicate your honest emotions and it’s up to your POL to figure out how to protect your Heart. Within your Mind, you will decide whether to be honest with your Heart’s emotions, like when Mom feels emotions of protection for Child when Dad is being too aggressive with Child, it’s up to Mom to express her emotions and it’s up to Dad to gain consciousness of the unnecessary negative emotions he’s injecting into Mom and Child. Mom and Dad must continuously work together with honesty.
Honest communication is crucial in a relationship. You must continuously talk about your feelings. You must be continuously learning about each other so that one day, all the conversations won’t be necessary.
Consider the following scenario: Mom may feel overwhelmed with Baby and ask Dad to watch Baby with a frustrated tone. Dad may not appreciate Mom’s frustrated tone that injected him with an unnecessary negative emotion; he doesn’t feel he deserved the negative energy. In response, he may not watch Baby because he’s working (and for spite). Mom will then feel even more frustrated because she feels the increasing stress of not receiving a break from Baby and the frustration from not receiving help from Dad. Dad will also feel frustrated because Mom injected him with unnecessary negative energy and now his Love’s in a negative mood which causes him to feel worse. Negative energy is contagious and will be shared.
First, Mom shouldn’t ask Dad for help with a frustrating (anger) tone when her true emotion is defeat/exhaustion (sadness). She may have expected Dad to step in, without her asking, before her exhaustion became frustration. She may have created an expectation in her Mind and it led her to anger, anger she unfairly expressed. Second, when Dad receives Mom’s negative energy, he shouldn’t react spitefully. He should express his feelings, that he feels the way she spoke was unnecessary. He should recognize Mom feels overwhelmed and her emotions took over; she didn’t intend to inject him with negativity. He should calm his immediate emotions and help Mom.
Sometimes, it’s best to talk through these situations when emotions are calmed. This is how this situation should be handled: Mom must express to Dad that she needs more help with Baby, that she feels overwhelmed. Dad must empathize and try to come up with ways to accommodate. For instance, Dad can tell Mom that when she needs him to watch Baby, to calmly tell him about five minutes before so he can come to a stopping point in his work. It’s important for conversation to be calm so negative energy isn’t unnecessarily created. Mom and Dad may agree to the “five-minute warning,” but understand, it’s an agreement that may not solve the problem. It’s possible that the agreement doesn’t work when it’s put into practice because when Mom realizes she needs Dad’s help, she’s already at her wits end; she doesn’t want to wait five minutes. If this becomes the case, then Mom and Dad must have another conversation to adjust their agreement. Dad may tell Mom that when she needs help, to give him ten seconds to write down a few notes so he could remember where he left off in thought, which is reasonable. When an effective agreement is put into practice, the relationship will evolve. Mom may have to ask Dad for help every time she needs help in the near future, but eventually, if Dad listens to and pays attention to his Love, he’ll learn Mom’s needs. Eventually, Mom won’t always have to ask for help because Dad will learn what his Love needs without her having to always ask.
Mom and Dad must continuously express their feelings with calm words until understanding is achieved, until all the conversations aren’t necessary. Sometimes it’s difficult for two people to understand each other because everyone has their own feelings, their own biases. It can be beneficial to have conversations with an unbiased third person mediator.
Achieving silent understanding brings two people closer to ultimate happiness. The goal is to continuously pull yourself toward one person, toward your One Love, so two can become one, so two can achieve UniLove.
Take your time with Love. Our love lives begin around age fifteen and our average life span is currently seventy-five years. We have time. We have many connections to make, many feelings to feel. There are many connections on the road to UniLove.
If you recognize UniLove isn’t possible with the person you spent five years with, from age twenty-five to thirty, you still have more than forty years to reach your ultimate happiness. Never settle and never give up your fight for happiness, as you did when you were a crying baby.
Achieving Ultimate Happiness (UniLove)
Humans are their Minds. Our Minds aren’t Hearts, so our Minds wouldn’t understand emotions if we didn’t have a Heart to feel. And you only feel your Heart.
Because you (Mind) have a Heart, you can learn Love. Your first Love is Mom; you believed she was your One Love. Your love for Mom taught your Heart what Love is, what feeling complete feels like. Your early understanding of Love was unconscious to your Mind, but it was ingrained into your memory and we must bring it to consciousness.
The first fourteen years of everyone’s life are critical. We must understand our emotions, our relationship with our first Love, and understand how to achieve UniLove. Then we will be best prepared to achieve ultimate happiness in life.
Mom and Dad have the most important role in preparing their children for UniLove.
Generally, Boy will be closer to Mom and Girl will be closer to Dad. Girl needs Dad to show her how her One Love should treat her and love her. Girl needs Mom to show her how to be a respectable woman who demands respect in Love. Girl will learn by the way Dad treats her and through observing her parents’ Love.
Dad must teach Girl respectful Love with his actions and words toward Girl and Mom. Girl should never see Dad be aggressive (physically or verbally) toward Mom. People should never instill their physical will on anyone, especially children. Girl should watch Dad loving Mom, helping Mom, and taking care of Mom, as well as Mom loving Dad, helping him, and taking care of him. If Dad respects and supports Mom and Girl, then Girl will demand respect and support from a POL. If girl is verbally abused by Dad, or observes Mom verbally abused by Dad, then Girl is prone to accept being verbally abused.
Dad should tell Girl he loves her, that he always misses her. He should show her with the time he spends with her, with the loving way he looks at her, with the Heartful hugs he gives her.
Dad should take Girl on dates (if you have many children, every child should have one on one time with parents). Girl will learn how it feels to receive all the attention from her Love (learning faithful love).
Naturally, jealousy is felt by children watching their parents’ Love because children love powerfully. Babies feel infatuation toward their parents because they’re all feeling (Heart) and not much thought (Mind). They’re all Heart before the Mind figures things out. Boy will see Mom as his woman. Girl will see Dad as her man. Babies/Children become territorial and will come between parent’s affection, which is okay. Parents must share their love but also be conscious. Mom may feel jealous too, if Dad spends too much time with Girl, not enough time with Mom, not enough love given to Mom, and Mom needs to feel Dad’s love always. If Dad doesn’t put Mom first, he can push her away emotionally. Dad must put Mom first, before children (if a step-parent is involved, children must be put first until strong love is developed between child and step-parent). Babies/Children will get their love because they’re driven mostly by their Heart (they will cry/whine for attention).
Children learn Love from the way Mom and Dad treat them, and they learn more about Love by observing the way Mom and Dad treat each other. Mom and Dad must continuously express their affection. They should give each other their loving eyes, share their sensual kiss, and hold each other like they never want to let go.
Two people in love should never allow a day go by without holding each other. Being held by Mom (your Love) was your favorite feeling as a baby. When you hold your Love, two Hearts are brought close together, two Hearts you hope one day will combine. Holding each other reminds you what you have, the feeling you don’t want to let go.
A fourteen-year-old child must understand he felt complete as a baby and young child because of Mom’s love. He had no need for sex. His Heart understood, but his Mind was too young to be conscious of why he felt completely happy.
Over time, children will be pushed away from Mom because Mom isn’t the one who will complete them. Mom will continuously feel sadness as her children grow, as she watches her babies further distance themselves from her side. This is natural, but children will always be connected to Mom; they will always be powerfully pulled by their first Love. But children must push away from Mom to pull toward their One Love because Mom can’t give them what their Hearts truly crave; UniLove.
We must understand the existence of UniLove. UniLove is the euphoric feeling of two Hearts becoming one. When two Hearts are honest in Love and two Minds achieve a place of deep understanding, they will combine for an unconditional One Love; Unilove.
Becoming One is a lengthy process that requires continuous work and protection to achieve ultimate happiness. We must understand how to listen to our Hearts, how to control our Minds, to achieve UniLove. The momentary highs of sexual pleasure don’t compare to the everlasting highs of UniLove.
Humans are chasing moments of high and are never satisfied because deep within, we unconsciously know of a place of ultimate satisfaction. It’s a place we are all chasing. It’s a place we all know about in our Hearts (not yet our Minds) thanks to Mom, our first Love. We entered this world complete and we must understand who we are to find our way back to completeness. We must put Heart and Mind together to realize who we are.
There’s a reason why our Heart and Mind are the two most protected organs in our body; Heartàribcage, Mindàskull.
How to Advance our World
Education and Society
To advance our world, society must be designed based on Humanity.
The greatest feeling for Child is when Mom (his Love) is holding him. The next greatest feeling for Child is when he learns, discovers and creates; when he advances. When Child’s Mind figures something out, he feels livened. He feels bigger and wants to keep moving his Mind to discover more; he wants to be Big.
Humans must move around and discover. We can stop and think, but must revert to moving. We stop to sleep or rest. We move to work, with pauses to think, always back to moving to work, so we can discover and create. When we discover and create for our world, when we provide value to people around us, we feel great because we feel we have purpose.
Our economy must be set up to exploit all Minds so all people will realize their purpose. This begins with education.
Humans mustn’t be taught to sit in a Sunless classroom for hours. You should only be still for hours when you’re sleeping or meditating (mentally advancing through silent thought).
Humans need the Sun. Our Sun provides us with positive energy. Our Sun provides us with what we need to grow healthily with strong bones. We are like Trees; we need the Sun and Water to grow and survive.
Every Human is unique. Everyone has different interests, talents, and passions. Everyone’s potential world contributions are different.
Every child must be pushed in a unique direction to be the best he can be. Every child must understand he’s only in competition with himself, not his classmates. He must be trying to become better tomorrow than he is today, always advancing forward. He must always be thinking forward to move forward.
Every child requires exposure to the world around him. He requires exposure to the many areas he can contribute to, under the watchful eye of adults who can recognize when he feels love for something he’s doing. It’s difficult for a child to become conscious of his passions. Adults must help children recognize and understand their passions, and help them work toward them.
When a child works year after year toward his passions, he’ll become one of the best at what he loves to do. And he’ll love what he does.
A child who’s talented with numbers and pushed toward working with numbers may feel miserable working with numbers. A child who’s pushed toward numbers will become a replaceable pawn, because anyone talented with numbers can learn to work with numbers.
A child who’s talented with numbers, but feels passion for numbers, writing, Humanity, the Universe, Earth, the problems of his world, Love, may discover things about Humans that no one else has discovered. A child who works toward all his unique passions will provide our world something unique. That child will feel invigorated for his contributions. That child will be a person of value for his unique skills. That child is irreplaceable.
Educational curriculums must be chameleonic. Educators mustn’t push every child in the same direction. They must push children in their unique directions.
Every child must have continuous education in Human emotions/feelings.
Every child must have continuous education in math (numbers) and reading/writing (words, language). Critical thinking is taught through math and reading/writing.
Every child must learn Life Skills (cooking, social skills, home and economic management, driving/direction, other Life Skills).
Every child should be exposed to history (cultures, geography, religion, specific history of different peoples and different times, other history), Humanities (life, society/social studies, Human behavior, ethics, health, physical education, therapies, other Humanities), sciences (biology, chemistry, physics, astrology, archaeology, other sciences), agriculture (nature, gardening, rearing of animals, other agriculture), arts (drawing, building, acting, music, dance, cooking, creative writing, other arts), technologies and more. There are many areas of study and all children must have exposure to all areas.
Educators must help children realize their many passions and formulate unique curriculums of learning for each child. If a child shows no interest in an area, such as dancing, or chemistry, they mustn’t be pushed/forced to dance or learn chemistry.
When a child feels passion, he combines his Heart (his love) and Mind (his interest) towards learning. When children spend years working toward their unique passions, they will discover their genius. When passion is the driving force, we will feel alive when we work, when we produce, when we discover and create.
Achieving unique contributions is invigorating. The momentary artificial highs provided from drugs and alcohol don’t compare to the continuous highs of achievement.
When we push children toward their passions, each child will develop unique skills. Each child will have unique expertise and our societal structure will evolve to accommodate a new, advanced world. People won’t have to wake up every morning and go to work in a Sunless building, trained to sit for hours while fighting exhaustion against our nature to sleep when still for so many hours. And people won’t hate Mondays and love Fridays; they will love every day.
When we change how we educate our children, our world will advance exponentially.
In a world where every person is pushed toward their unique passions, everyone will become a person of value. No one will be a pawn who can be fired and replaced. The power will transfer from the business to the individual. And we will stop wasting (never realizing) our geniuses.
Life Purpose 2: You must discover your genius and improve our world to the best of your ability.
Law and Logic
Humanity should have one overarching law: Everyone has a natural right to Life (Happiness). Everyone’s pursuit of happiness should be protected and never hindered by another.
When dealing with societal issues, logical justice should rule. For example, a seventeen-year-old child shouldn’t be charged with statutory rape of his sixteen-year-old girlfriend. Or a woman shouldn’t be forced to pay spousal support to the man she left because he mentally and physically abused her. Or you shouldn’t be imprisoned for getting high if you’re not hurting others.
Logic must be injected into our world. For example, cannabis mustn’t be illegal. Cannabis was criminalized in the US to fill prisons. In 1865, the thirteenth amendment “abolished slavery” in the US; it didn’t really abolish slavery. It made slavery illegal, “except as a punishment for crime whereof the party shall have been duly convicted.” This means slavery is legal if you were convicted of a crime; prison inmates are legal slaves. “Abolishing slavery” was terrible for the US economy because slavery is what created American wealth. For decades following the 1865 decision, the US progressively decreased in wealth until it hit the Great Depression during the 1930’s. And you know what else happened during the 1930’s? The US government outlawed all recreational drugs, including cannabis. It was claimed that cannabis caused people to act irrationally, overly sexual (leading to rape), and commit violent crimes (leading to torture and murder). It was even claimed cannabis gave people “superhuman strength.” Almost a hundred years later and we still haven’t connected the dots. Cannabis doesn’t cause violence and it doesn’t kill anyone. It was made illegal to give the government more reasons to fill up its prisons for legal slave labor, labor that would help the country out of financial depression. In fact, recent limited studies on cannabis have shown it has medicinal properties. Cannabis has helped children suffering seizures, has helped people with cancer, with depression, with daily physical pain, and more. Cannabis is a flower, a flower that can help many people in pain, that can advance our medicinal knowledge, but scientists aren’t allowed to do their studies and experiments because the US government determined it’s illegal. This is ridiculous and we must stop the nonsense. We must allow our geniuses to advance our world.
Humans must be a species of logic (Mind) if we want to be happy, and more, if we want to survive.
We must be honest. We can’t move forward appropriately without honesty. Someone can do something to another causing another to feel anger. Another is wrong if he decides to retaliate with anger, or if he decides to remain silent about his anger. Another must communicate what angered him so he can understand honest intentions. Someone could’ve intended to be joking around. Through honest, calm communication, we can understand a situation for what it truly is, and then we can move forward appropriately. Sometimes moving forward means to push a person away if they don’t understand how to treat you, which is okay. Your primary goal is your happiness and you must protect it, never allowing others to take you away from your happiness.
It’s important to control immediate current emotions. People must feel comfortable expressing themselves without fear of abusive retribution (like children with discipline). Sometimes honesty can be shocking but we must halt immediate reactions and put our Minds to work to gain greater understanding. For example, there are adults who have inappropriate feelings toward children who can’t express themselves because they will be labeled and demonized. They end up burying their emotions until they explode out and behave inappropriately with children. We must all feel comfortable expressing ourselves so all can be helped and protected. And we must do all we can do to protect vulnerable children. WE MUST PROTECT CHILDREN!
Our world holds many secrets. Those who hold secrets feel others aren’t prepared for honesty because we aren’t in control of our emotions. We must understand our emotions and gain control. We must control our happiness, fear, anger, and sadness. We mustn’t allow ourselves to become emotionally unhinged. Reacting to our emotions can lead to causing unnecessary pain. We must breathe. We must think (move our Minds). We must calm our emotions and search for understanding through respectful communication and mental reflection.
We must be honest about our Heart (love) and Mind (consciousness). And we must be willing to evolve, which sometimes means accepting being wrong and adjusting our feelings about something or someone
Theory on Death
We are our Minds and in the next phase, when we pass on, we will be our Minds (our consciousness). We leave our body on Earth.
On Earth, we are given a Heart that feels positive emotions (happiness) and negative emotions (pain). The Mind doesn’t feel pain; it interprets it.
If our Mind wasn’t given a Heart to feel happiness and pain, our Mind wouldn’t understand happiness and pain. Our Mind wouldn’t understand empathy.
We are born selfish, only feeling the emotions that fill our own Heart. Think of boiling water touching your skin (or any serious burn). You wouldn’t truly understand how to empathize with someone who has been badly burned if you haven’t been burned yourself. You may be able to imagine the pain, but you know the pain if you’ve been burned. When you know the pain, you can show more empathy when you see another person burned.
You don’t truly understand the pain of losing a Love (someone connected to your Heart) to death/passing until you lose a Love to death on Earth.
You may not understand how much someone means to you until you lose them, until you can’t see them, until you can’t be in the same space as them anymore. You may not understand how much a person is ingrained into your Heart, your Mind, until that person isn’t physically around anymore. If you never realized how much your Love truly meant to you while they were on Earth, then you never truly appreciated your Love in the way you should’ve.
When a person’s time on Earth is over, their Mind passes on to the next phase. Their Loves who remain on Earth will feel pain because of their passing (pain felt in the Heart), pain that can be helped by cries. Along with cries, understanding can help the pain.
Understand, as we live and feel a world of pain enter our Heart, we also feel sorrow for the pain in our Loves’ Hearts. We want our Loves to be okay, to be taken care of, to feel happiness, not pain.
When a Love passes, many people on Earth are left with pain at their loss. Many people miss them, wish they can see them again, wish they can hold them again, wish they can feel their love again.
People who pass on feel more sorrow. They feel sorrow because they left their world on Earth, where most of their Loves remain. They’re separated from all their Loves. All their Loves still have each other, but the person who passed on is left waiting. They feel pain because they aren’t around to comfort their Loves anymore, to hold their Loves when their Loves need to be held, need to feel loved. They can’t take care of their Loves anymore. They want their Loves to be okay, but they aren’t around to help them the way they want to help.
People who pass on feel even more pain when they see their Loves in pain because of their passing. They may feel they let their Loves down. They may feel regret for not doing enough, not loving their Loves powerfully enough. They feel terrible when their “death” causes so much pain. And they can’t do anything about it. They can’t give their Loves a hug.
People who pass on may be in so, so much pain, more pain than we on Earth could handle. Fortunately, for them, they don’t feel pain as we do. We feel powerful pain puncture our Heart, pain our Mind interprets. People who pass on can only mentalize their pain. Their pain is mental misery. Their pain couldn’t be handled by a Heart.
People who’ve passed on wouldn’t understand the pain if they’d never felt a Heart, and because they lived on Earth with a Heart, because they lived through a world of pain, their Conscious Mind understands pain, understands how to empathize with another’s pain without having to physically feel the pain. They won’t have to feel burned to feel pain for their Love who has been burned.
Life Purpose 3: You must learn empathy. You are given a Heart on Earth so your Mind can understand emotions. You must understand everyone has feelings and everyone wants to feel happy.
Upon a Love’s death, it’s natural to feel pain. But you will feel them again. You must fight to live happily on Earth. You must live your life until it’s time for you to pass on.
If you dwell on your passed-on Love’s “death,” then they will be in endless mental misery because they hate to see you in pain because of their passing. If you move forward happily, allowing the positive memories of your passed-on Love hit your Mind, refusing to allow the negativity pain you, then your passed-on Love will be at mental peace as they await to be with you again.
People won’t forget the pain of losing a Love. Losing Loves teaches people what Loves truly mean to them. When Loves are reunited in the next phase, they will understand they shouldn’t take each other for granted. They will understand the pain of feeling like they were separated forever, forced to live for days and years without feeling their unique Love.
Death on Earth Purpose: Death on Earth teaches Conscious Minds what other Conscious Minds mean to them. Death on Earth teaches the Conscious Mind Love.
We must understand our Humanity to advance. We have purposes in life and we must understand ourselves to achieve our purposes; we aren’t here for no reason.
We could never survive alone at birth and we can’t survive if we are divided; we must come together. We must understand everyone feels their own pain, and when we come together, we will understand how to move beyond our pain. We will evolve from our angry world of pain. And we will understand how to protect our future children more effectively.
We have Free Will. We must decide to properly educate all children about who we are so we all understand the consequences of our actions.
Our lives aren’t predetermined. If your life was predetermined, you wouldn’t have Free Will.
We all make decision every day that lead us on a certain path. We are continuously faced with decisions that will take us on a different path depending on the decision we make.
Our main purpose in life is to find Love, to find the Heart that completes our Heart; for two Hearts to become One Love. The strength of Love will continuously be tested and it’s up to two people to protect Love. Each individual can only do their part and trust the other will do theirs. And because you only have control of yourself, because you only have your Heart and Mind, it’s so special when two Hearts become one, when two Minds unite, when you achieve UniLove.
UniLove is ultimate happiness. Happiness is Life.